These days....actually since this year began, I've been unreasonably (for mi) happy and excited, it scares me. Nothing in particular has happened or is happening, but I find myself suddenly giddy and excited....anticipation but in a positive manner. A random thought occurred to mi today: When I get my doctorate degree, I might not practice, or at least, not for long. Now isn't that an amazingly terrifying thought?? Worked all these years and I finally accepted that I truly don't think this is ultimately what I want. LMAO. Doesn't help that my dad has always said that he sees mi as something else (don't want to say), despite all the schooling he has sacrificed for haha.
31 Jan 2018
31 Dec 2017
Letter to You for Them
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19 Dec 2017
Tales by Moonlight
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Labels: 2017; Random; Urgh
18 Dec 2017
Heaven Knows Best
A cry for help we call it.
We all rationalize and try to explain it. But I don't think there is a rational explanation for the pain that comes with emotional distress. The kind that makes you constantly exhausted even after hours of rest. The kind that makes you constantly lonely even in the midst of people you know believe they care. The kind that makes you constantly yearning, even with an abundance.
When the darkness closes in, it feels suffocating; foreign yet familiar. Threatening and nonthreatening at the same time. You want to tell someone, but the fear that they wouldn't understand, or worse, offer you that hope that you believe won't last keeps you. You want to tell someone, but it feels like the darkness will intensify; engulf and swallow you if you speak out or make your presence known.
And then slowly, you give up fighting; give up wrestling; stop hoping. A calmness sets in, as you feel it become you.
Woke up to the news of Shinee's Junghyun's death.
RIP
xo
Posted by AiMi at 11:11:00 0 comments
10 Dec 2017
1012 for the 12th time
This year, I am celebrating the lives of the two survivors, more so my dear friend. This year, I am thankful for the continued healing process, both for the survivors and for family and friends. This year, I am grateful for the ability to remember with a smile, no matter how bitter sweet. This year, I can honestly say, I am better than I was before.
Posted by Mi at 13:07:00 0 comments
Labels: 1012, 2017; Bitter-Sweet; 60 Angels
3 Dec 2017
So....
He dotes on everyone. I want to go home.
I don’t like him.
I just want the attention and I was mad about that.
I just liked feeling special and got mad when it was taken away.
14 Sept 2017
Hand on my shoulder....
Posted by AiMi at 02:26:00 0 comments
Labels: Angels, Dec 10th, Friends lost, Memories, Nostalgia
10 Jul 2017
Delight??
Posted by AiMi at 02:39:00 0 comments
Labels: 2017; Random; Sinking; Free fall
21 Jun 2017
The Question of Loyalty
Loyalty.
I've never given much thought to the boundaries of that word, never had much cause to honestly. Until my experience this weekend. In summary, simply because I have no desire to rehash the upsetting affair in full, my friend's bf was verbally disrespectful to mi in public, and her response was to "stand in the middle" so to speak, not taking "sides". In the moment, I didn't think much of her response or lack of one thereof. I was more interested in going home and removing myself from the situation. But then once I got home, showered and had my second favorite ice cream, I had the mental space to be upset at her, and the word loyalty began floating in the air.
First off, i think regardless of the circumstance, there are no grounds for your bf to be disrespectful to your friend. You, as the common factor, are responsible for (for lack of a better word) checking him, as being disrespectful to your friend(s) is the same as being disrespectful to you. The reverse - friend disrespecting boyfriend - is also true.
Second, loyalty came to my mind because I have consistently been asked since - do I want to remain friends knowing fully well that he will remain in her life and that I do believe she had the same "sweep it under the rug/no one was at fault" style response to both of us??
But then again, is it fair/"loyal" to cut off a friendship because of a boyfriend?? Ah, but many a relationships have died for less.
I think what bothered mi the most was that she continued to excuse his behaviour, as she tried to explain the situation and apologise for creating a situation where we (bf and I) would interact, as we have "opposite personalities". Does being a objectionable pass as a personality then?? And what personality does not clash with that?? Saying we disagreed due to "opposite personalities" makes the event partly my fault, and that is frustrating as I don't think saying I don't want to wait an hour in line just because a location had great reviews when we were already pressed for time, tired and hungry, warranted the come back I got. Also, she had previously stated that he was frustrated with her, but because he couldn't speak to her in "that manner" (the manner with which he spoke to mi), he carried out his frustrations on mi....so it's not an issue of "opposite personalities", but childishness/poor emotional regulation then??
OK, I guess I am still very much upset by the event. But I don't even have the energy to engage in "fixing this", and as my default is to let go and walk away, I'm sitting here contemplating, albeit ambivalently, as she plays pendulum between the two of us. I'll let you know what I decide once I get bored of sitting.
Alright, rant over.
xo
Posted by AiMi at 17:56:00 0 comments
Labels: 2017; Random; Urgh; Friendships
10 Jun 2017
My love for K-Stars
so recently, TOP was hospitalized for an overdose and I discovered the true meaning of having a compulsion to manage an obsessive thought/anxiety. I kept refreshing my search browser with every rising heart rate. So I'll be calm, feel my heart rate speeding up after thirty mins, refresh browser, no bad news?? Ok, calm again. Reset. Repeat. It got so bad my brother was calming mi down. lol I'm a mess.
When did I become that intense fan girl?? You would think a member of my family was in critical condition. But then in a way, wasn't it though?? A different kind but one nonetheless.
Now this is one group. How do people with multiple biases do it??
Ok random post done.
It's been a while by the way. Will do a brief life update later :)
xo
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