The New Rules for Love, Sex and Dating (LSD): Chapter 2

Back for chapter 2 of Andy Stanley's book on relationships. Forgot to add that some parts of these summaries are direct quotes and not my own thoughts.

Enjoy

Chapter 2: Commitment is overrated.
* A promise, vow or commitment cannot replace preparation for a relationship.
* Saying 'I do' doesn't make a person capable, only accountable. Accountable - Capable = Miserable
* How do you know if you/partner are prepared to commit?? Proverbs 14:15 Examine prior commitments, look at life's trajectory. FYI, people change yes, but people can't change people. People don't change for people. "Change requires fierce in-dependence that should eventually lead to inter-dependence with other healthy people.
* If you have concerns about the direction of your partner's life, give them time and space to change. You can't be their crutch. You may loose them, but that means they weren't the right person for you.
* If you say/hear these lines, press pause: I can't live without you, I can't make it without you, I'm not sure I want to live without you, I need you (and other similar chants). These are declarations of dependence.
* Commit - not to person or relationship - to preparing to keep you commitments later.

Chapter 3: Becoming the right  person.

.... To be continued ....