I do Day

My wedding.

First off, I think I'm thinking about this cause I have a lot of free time and my cousin just got married, but regardless of what I say (and I do say a lot of BS), there are some constants that I must have for my wedding it seems.

1. Location: Nigeria, North.
I don't care if I am marrying someone from Mars, my wedding has to be in Naij. The thought of not having ALL my family members at that wedding is not fathomable. My grandpa, the love of my life, has to be there for one (God willing), my grand ma, cute little thing she is, has to also be there (also God willing). Then my cousins and siblings, whom I believe invented the art of partying, must be there. Lets not get into my aunts and uncles and etc....plus regardless of what people say, you get more love back home at weddings than elsewhere. Other places, there is like a closing time for your wedding. Naij, bless our soul, with our semi-lawlessness in that regard, feel free to party all night or marry all night as the case may be. 

2. Religion: Christian.
This should probably be one, but I'm not writing this in any order. I cannot, for one thing, deal with the drama of explaining to my folks why I have to marry a non-christian, or the future drama of what religion my kids would be, or all the etcs that come with inter-religious weddings. He has to be Christian, no debate there and no gist necessary actually.

3. Theme: Traditional and White.
My wedding shall be about a week long event lol. And yes, it is an event. I wanna have my Spinster's Eve/Bachelor's party (separate pls, none of that joint business. Do your thing, I'd do mine), on one night. Then my traditional weddings - His culture (yes, non-Nigerian if you must know), and my culture (both the Edo and Hausa side....we shall make it mix lol). Thats too much work for one day so two days. Then of course the Church wedding and reception then of course thanksgiving. Its mainly 4 days, but since it would be a lot of work, we'd say trad weddings first - tuesday, wednesday - then break thursday, parties friday, wedding/reception saturday and thanksgiving sunday. 

4. Wedding time: Brief.
I am not getting married on a Sunday, so my wedding SHALL NOT be a Church service. Don't get mi wrong, I love going to church and worship and all that wonderful stuff, but thats what Sunday is for (as well as midweek services). If the wedding is more than 1 hour, max 1 hr 30, there is a problem. I went to wedding once where it seemed like the wedding was just a part of the church service, kinda how you do thanksgivings. Nope, not for mi. 

More to come....